It’s about getting clear on what you’re looking for and taking deliberate action that’s in line with your values and goals.
It’s about going on dates with appropriate matches and not playing games.
Use your breath as an anchor and let go of urges for rumination and obsessive thinking.
For example, if you notice yourself getting caught up in anxious thoughts on a date, redirect yourself to the present by truly tasting your food or drink, listening actively, observing what is around you, etc.
Also, be aware that getting ahead of yourself and moving too quickly can also result in dating challenges and lack of success. For example, if it’s July and you’ve been on three dates with someone, don’t plan to spend Thanksgiving together.
Understand your thoughts are simply thoughts (and are not necessarily accurate) and you don’t have to buy into them or investigate them.
Imagine your thoughts and feelings passing, changing, and shifting like clouds in the sky.Bring yourself back to what is happening now and growing your connection in this moment.